Love, love, love…it can be intoxicating, it can be frustrating, it can be confusing, it can be debilitating and too many it can be a whole lot more depending on the person(s) and their situation.
This week I am going in on the Karmic soulmate and Karmic relationships. A Karmic’s role is to teach a lesson. Karmics’ mimic soulmates in the sense you share an attraction, you share common interests, you tend to want to spend a significant amount of time together etc…..These relationship characteristics if seen on paper may seem like the perfect ingredients for a harmonious life together. You might be right or maybe fear kicks in. Fear of not being able to do better if you were to continue the search for the right one to spend your life with, the fear of being alone, fear of letting others down and not fulfilling a pre-conceived expectation of what your life is supposed to look like.
Next thing you know, one thing leads to another and bam you’re in a committed relationship. You may even wind up with having children together. Regardless of the circumstances, time will eventually pass and your person may or may not be all that you thought they were going to be in a life partner and / or the relationship in itself may not be what you expected as well. The point is, your partner aka your Karmic has begun to teach you about what it is you do want or don’t want in a life partner.
Couples in Karmic relationships tend to have volatile relationships in the sense that the relationship is either really going well or really going bad cyclically. You can almost set your watch to these inevitable cycles of good and bad times. With Karmic relationships there’s no happy medium in the relationship. Overtime, couples begin to identify triggers aka buttons to push in their partner’s that serve as catalysts for arguments. In addition, they also display learned behaviors (i.e. avoidance, temporary separation, loss of their opinions, submissiveness etc…) that are necessary to de-escalate the bad times. Nonetheless, couples in Karmic situations find ways to get through the periods of turmoil and eventually find their way back to a temporary happy place.
Karmic relationships can last a long time and can led to co-dependency. At some point, the couples in a Karmic relationship become co-dependent on each other for financial and emotional support. Through the course of their relationship, finances have been built up together, families may have developed and one could assume that career ascension has also occurred over time. One may consider these periods of time as “highlights” of the relationship. However, on the flip side when everything isn’t going so well due to life’s challenges, people evolving over time, not seeing eye to eye anymore etc… this is when couples either collectively or individually begin to weigh the pro’s and con’s of staying in a relationship that may no longer be fulfilling. These periods of time could be considered the “low points” of the relationship.
It’s not until a person begins to remember happier times when their self-esteem was at its peak, their confidence was unshakeable, when they felt they were their “best” self. Even if they didn’t have life all figured out yet. This self-awareness re-invigorates the individual to begin to love themself back to this happy place in their life. But I must warn you, Karmics’ recognize these changes that are occurring within their partner and they will do almost anything to maintain the Karmic relationship. Why would they do almost anything? For the very reason, that no one really wants to start over especially if their life is comfortable and as the saying goes, “if it ain’t broke why fix it!”.
The desire to break the Karmic cycle comes from the innate knowing that the cycle has to end, it comes in knowing that within this universe is an amazing individual that will fulfill and exceed expectations of a true life partner. The individual realizes that breaking the karmic cycle even it means being alone for a while, is worth it in the end and that freeing themselves of the Karmic is the only way experiencing true love will ever be possible.