Month: February 2019

How to Fix A Broken Clock

Almost a month ago, I decided that it was time to start blogging again. I only blog if I feel like there’s a topic that I am passionate about and that resonates with me to the point where I just “have to” to talk about it.

Right now, the hot topic for me is “love”. Over the past few weeks I’ve talked about the Twin Flame Journey and all week I’ve been pondering about what I wanted to talk about. Then “BOOM”, the song “Self Destruction” played over the radio. “Self Destruction” was a song created in 1987 by a few hip hop artists (i.e. Boogie Down Productions, Stetsasonic, MC Lyte, Kool Moe Dee, Doug E. Fresh, Just Ice, Heavy D, and Public Enemy). The collaboration was produced in the hopes of encouraging the hip hop community to end violence being committed amongst themselves.

Over the past few decades, this legendary song is often dug out the crates of many urban radio networks music catalogs to commemorate Black History month. However sadly in 2019, violence is not just a concern within urban communities but, it’s a concern throughout the entire United States and the rest of the world.

Somedays to me, it does feel like the world is going to self-destruct. National violence, global threats, a volatile economy, politics, corruption, racism, sexism, harassment etc…are all additional accelerants towards global self destruction.

Hearing the song “Self Destruction” just made me think about how backwards the world is going. Where I feel like somewhere over the past two decades, to be exact, the day the 45th President of the U.S. took office, that the global clock just stopped and the world as we know it stopped moving forward.

Ladies and gentlemen, we’re living in a world and time when so much love is needed to heal the wounds of this world. Unfortunately, amongst us are individuals who were never shown love and as a result do not know what love is nor know how to love others. Therefore, in an effort to change the battery of the global clock that we all live by, I challenge all within eyes reach to love. Love yourself first and then love others especially, those that are different from you. Don’t just love superficially where you’re going through the motions but, love with all of your might; to the point where your love becomes infectious.

Run Forrest Run!

If you’ve been following my blog the past few weeks, you’ve probably ascertained that the dynamics of The Twin Flame Journey is nothing short of being complex, confusing, scary and can be completely euphoric.

Due to what I’ve just described, sometimes one or both partners can’t deal with all of the varying emotions etc…and run from it all. Enter the roles of the “Runner” and the “Chaser”. These two roles evolve organically and are not predetermined. Also, its note worthy to mention that this period of the journey is where the experience can be complex and can be extremely distressing for one or both partners who, deep down, simply desire to be together in union.

The “Runner” will unconsciously emotionally or physically withdraw from the relationship. The phrase “out of sight, out of mind” is fitting to describe the mentality the Runner adopts. The Runner emotionally shuts down all whilst giving the other partner the silent treatment. They are running away from themselves. Runners are not running away from you. They run away from what they see reflected back at them, through you. They run from the things they don’t want to see, they don’t want to do, they don’t want to change, and you remind them of all that they have to deal with. So they run!

Alternatively, the behavior of running can also be intended to trigger the other partner to abandon the relationship, buy them additional time to having to confront and deal with their true feelings and ultimately take any necessary actions to facilitate union.

The “Chaser” on the other hand, tends to be the more mentally and emotionally mature partner of the two. Once the “Runner” has taken off, the “Chaser” often times is trying to make sense of what happened and for the betterment of their partner provides them enough space for their Twin to discern and grow. If this part of the journey was not hard enough, the “Chaser” is expected to maintain being the maturer of the two and hence be understanding of their partner’s behavior, forgive them for the abandonment, be patient, and remain faithful in believing that their Twin will eventually return.

While some relationships can survive this dynamic period(s) of time, other relationships crumble and end as a result of the partner leaving for a few months to a few years and then returning, only to repeat the cycle once again.

The Twin Flame journey is not for the faint hearted, weak minded nor for the non-believers of Twin Flame relationships. Initially, Twin Flames may not know what all is entailed regarding the journey but they do eventually realize that nothing worth having comes easy!