If you’ve been following my blog the past few weeks, you’ve probably ascertained that the dynamics of The Twin Flame Journey is nothing short of being complex, confusing, scary and can be completely euphoric.
Due to what I’ve just described, sometimes one or both partners can’t deal with all of the varying emotions etc…and run from it all. Enter the roles of the “Runner” and the “Chaser”. These two roles evolve organically and are not predetermined. Also, its note worthy to mention that this period of the journey is where the experience can be complex and can be extremely distressing for one or both partners who, deep down, simply desire to be together in union.
The “Runner” will unconsciously emotionally or physically withdraw from the relationship. The phrase “out of sight, out of mind” is fitting to describe the mentality the Runner adopts. The Runner emotionally shuts down all whilst giving the other partner the silent treatment. They are running away from themselves. Runners are not running away from you. They run away from what they see reflected back at them, through you. They run from the things they don’t want to see, they don’t want to do, they don’t want to change, and you remind them of all that they have to deal with. So they run!
Alternatively, the behavior of running can also be intended to trigger the other partner to abandon the relationship, buy them additional time to having to confront and deal with their true feelings and ultimately take any necessary actions to facilitate union.
The “Chaser” on the other hand, tends to be the more mentally and emotionally mature partner of the two. Once the “Runner” has taken off, the “Chaser” often times is trying to make sense of what happened and for the betterment of their partner provides them enough space for their Twin to discern and grow. If this part of the journey was not hard enough, the “Chaser” is expected to maintain being the maturer of the two and hence be understanding of their partner’s behavior, forgive them for the abandonment, be patient, and remain faithful in believing that their Twin will eventually return.
While some relationships can survive this dynamic period(s) of time, other relationships crumble and end as a result of the partner leaving for a few months to a few years and then returning, only to repeat the cycle once again.
The Twin Flame journey is not for the faint hearted, weak minded nor for the non-believers of Twin Flame relationships. Initially, Twin Flames may not know what all is entailed regarding the journey but they do eventually realize that nothing worth having comes easy!