Category: Relationships….dating, marriage, the good, the bad, and everything in between.

Run Forrest Run!

If you’ve been following my blog the past few weeks, you’ve probably ascertained that the dynamics of The Twin Flame Journey is nothing short of being complex, confusing, scary and can be completely euphoric.

Due to what I’ve just described, sometimes one or both partners can’t deal with all of the varying emotions etc…and run from it all. Enter the roles of the “Runner” and the “Chaser”. These two roles evolve organically and are not predetermined. Also, its note worthy to mention that this period of the journey is where the experience can be complex and can be extremely distressing for one or both partners who, deep down, simply desire to be together in union.

The “Runner” will unconsciously emotionally or physically withdraw from the relationship. The phrase “out of sight, out of mind” is fitting to describe the mentality the Runner adopts. The Runner emotionally shuts down all whilst giving the other partner the silent treatment. They are running away from themselves. Runners are not running away from you. They run away from what they see reflected back at them, through you. They run from the things they don’t want to see, they don’t want to do, they don’t want to change, and you remind them of all that they have to deal with. So they run!

Alternatively, the behavior of running can also be intended to trigger the other partner to abandon the relationship, buy them additional time to having to confront and deal with their true feelings and ultimately take any necessary actions to facilitate union.

The “Chaser” on the other hand, tends to be the more mentally and emotionally mature partner of the two. Once the “Runner” has taken off, the “Chaser” often times is trying to make sense of what happened and for the betterment of their partner provides them enough space for their Twin to discern and grow. If this part of the journey was not hard enough, the “Chaser” is expected to maintain being the maturer of the two and hence be understanding of their partner’s behavior, forgive them for the abandonment, be patient, and remain faithful in believing that their Twin will eventually return.

While some relationships can survive this dynamic period(s) of time, other relationships crumble and end as a result of the partner leaving for a few months to a few years and then returning, only to repeat the cycle once again.

The Twin Flame journey is not for the faint hearted, weak minded nor for the non-believers of Twin Flame relationships. Initially, Twin Flames may not know what all is entailed regarding the journey but they do eventually realize that nothing worth having comes easy!

Signs to Identify You’ve Found Your Twin Flame

In last week’s blog we discussed the difference between a Soulmate and a TwinFlame. This week we’ll discuss how to identify your Twin Flame.

Here are “11” signs you’ve met your Twin Flame:

1. You have the unshakeable feeling that they are the one and with them it feels like home.
2. You share a heightened level of telepathy with them and know what
the other is thinking, their mood, and how they feel at anytime
of the day.
3. You love them unconditionally and do not desire to change them.
4. Understand that no one is perfect and hold no regard for things
that went bad in their previous relationships.
5. You want them to be happy regardless if it’s with you or someone
else.
6. There is no competition or jealousy between the two of you.
7. The two of you share similar values, ethics, goals, interests
etc…
8. Time seems to stand still when the two of you spend time together
in person or not.
9. They bring out the best in you and will compliment any flaws that
you may have.
10.The two of you can have difficult conversations without the other
threatening to flee or fleeing the relationship.
11.You trust them in any given situation regardless if other men or
women will be sharing the same space as them at any given time.

These are the signs that they’re a FALSE Twin Flame:

1. You come to the understanding that your false twin has a specific purpose and once their specific purpose has been fulfilled, the relationship is free to dissolve.
2. They will bring up issues of the past.
3. Their commitment to you will fade when challenges come along.
4. They will be threatened by your success.
5. They will want or will try to change you.
6. They will pretend to be a mirror image of you and will eventually
reveal their true self.
7. The relationship is stressful.
8. The space you share with them is tense, which results in a
negative impact to your mood and your health.
9. Your gut tells you, they are not the one.
10.You ponder a way out in order to clear the path for the emergence
of your Twin Flame.
11.You do not hear each other when you disagree / argue and you shut
down.

We’ll continue to take a deeper dive next week on the Twin Flame Journey and introduce a discussion on Karmics. Sending you all love and light. Have a great week!

The Twin Flame Journey

Can you believe that we’re a month away from Valentine’s Day? Me either! The stores are flooded with Valentine’s Day cards, candy, calendar, candles etc… That’s a lot of “C’s” I just referenced!

Anyone that knows me, knows that I love “LOVE”! Love is everything! Love can make you happy. Love can make you sad. Love heals and I believe, LOVE can conquer all!

Therefore, it’s only appropriate that I begin by asking, “have you ever heard of a Twin Flame”? How about a “Soulmate”? You probably said “yes” to the latter. A Soulmate is defined as “a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic parter”. The Urban dictionary defines a soulmate as “being like a best friend but, more. It’s the one person in the world who knows you better than anyone else. It’s someone who makes you a better person, well, actually they don’t make you a better person…you do that yourself because they inspire you. A Soulmate is someone who you carry with you FOREVER. It’s the one person who knew you, accepted you and believed in you before anyone else did and when no one else would. And no matter what happens…you will ALWAYS love them, unconditionally.

The Urban Dictionary defines a Twin Flame as “our most perfect mirror, because they are us in another body. Our Twin Flame is the only one, who gives us a true and honest reflection of who we are, and where we are in our lives at any given time. When you look at each other, you will feel like you are looking in the mirror because of the magic of your soul being mirrored, you will just FEEL it! Not only do they reflect everything in us that is good…they also mirror any fears or perceived “weaknesses” that we feel we have…and those are reflected so that the twins can work through them TOGETHER”.

Often confused with the term “Soulmate”, Twin Flames are two halves of one soul. Your Twin Flame is the one person in this world that completes you.

If you love the topic of “LOVE” like I do, having a soulmate and / or a Twin Flame sounds like hearing your favorite song when you least expect it. Correct? Well think again!

Once you figure out who your Twin Flame is; pack up your heart, your emotions and grab some Kleenex because you’re in for an experience of a lifetime! Nothing great in life comes easy, someone once said including sharing a life with your Twin Flame.

The Twin Flame journey includes you and your other halve. One of you will be known as “the chaser” and the other one as “the runner”. The chaser is more aware and understanding. They carry a strong emotional connection to their twin and understand the mirror effect of the Twin Flame dynamic. The chaser will feel an emotion that something is “off” and this will serve as an impetus to take an action. This “off” feeling can include a feeling that their twin is experiencing sadness, anger / frustration, disappointment etc.. at that particular moment. The chaser just knows that their twin is going through something and they need to reach out. As a result, the chaser will initiate an action, a communication, do something to get their twin’s attention so that they know that they’re being thought of and that they’re there for them if the Twin needs them. Also, they could fear that they’re being forgotten about by their Twin.

Don’t get it twisted, the runner feels these same emotions as well but, instead of chasing their other half, they run from it! This is because the runner has never experienced such overwhelming emotions / feelings before and they may not even understand why they have these emotions / feelings and run as far away from their Twin out of fear.

As the one twin runs, the chaser begins to tire and eventually will stop chasing the twin. The end of the chase can be emotionally overwhelming accompanied with random tears for the Twin and may include feelings of loss.

After reading these two definitions and being introduced to the Twin Flame Journey, can you say that you’re with your soulmate? Or better yet, “are you and your Twin Flame in union”? If you answered “yes” to either question, consider yourself blessed and hold on to what you have like there’s no tomorrow. If you answered, “no” and you desire to be in union with your Twin Flame, you’ve come to the right place.

Over the next four weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, if you would like to learn more about the Twin Flame Journey I’ll be continuing a dialogue right here. You can also follow my blog on Instagram (Cannot Make This Up Blog).

Player Don’t Get Played!!!

I’m BacK!!! You thought I was gone? Not! I’ve been on hiatus and now I’m back! My re-inaugural post will be on the topic of the classic “Jedi Mind Trick!” The Jedi Mind Trick is the action of initiating or starting an argument with your lady / man on the premise of thinking, assuming or confronting them for cheating on you. Fuck, who needs proof? Just throw in an insinuation that they’re cheating, see how they react! Then insert some mild or extreme threats in the mix such as leaving them or putting them out. Don’t forget to disrupt the whole family environment (i.e. get the children / family upset) and see what happens. This is the not so subtle art of the Jedi Mind Trick.

If used correctly, it can be used to deflect from your own cheating, used to curb some mischievous inappropiate behavior between them and someone else and / or can be used to manipulate others who may have entertained leaving a relationship into staying in an otherwise dying situation. The Jedi Mind Trick can fuck someone’s head up so bad that one can manipulate this person into handing over their credit cards for mindless shopping, giving you the password to their cellphone, giving you an unlimited amount of sex, have the person all up in your face all of the time (i.e. constant attention), have you alienate your personal life, family and friends that you once had and all without having any concrete proof of you cheating. Yes, I said it! Without any real proof of cheating! You’d be surprised how many people fall for the Jedi Mind Trick. Fear can paralyze you! And Jedi Masters know this…

Not all people are innocent and Karma will take care of them. This blog is for the peeps that aren’t cheating, were cheating but, got rid of all their receipts and / or woke up and decided to make their existing relationships work.

Does this sound familiar to you? Have you ever used the Jedi Mind Trick? If so, did I capture the reason why you used it? Shit, I’ve used all of the above scenarios! Was I successful? I’ll never tell but, I will tell you that if you ever find yourself in any of these scenarios, please don’t be naïve! Game attracts game, playa!

If you’re on the receiving end of the Jedi Mind Trick take a deeper dive especially, if you’re innocent! Ask the person “whatcha you been up to?” Have they been acting different? Looking and smelling extra good lately? Is the love-making the same? Are they present when making love or are they distant? Depending on your answers, you can avoid having the Jedi Mind Trick used on you and will be able to initiate “Two Can Play That Game!”

By the way, if your my peoples and I find out that you’ve been a victim of the Jedi Mind Trick, I will kindly provide you with my address so that you can mail me your “playa” card because it’s been “revoked!” You’ve been warned! Catch a replay of the movie “Two Can Play That Game”, take my exam and maybe I’ll give you your “playa” card back!